The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
“Love is a precious gift,
which we receive from Jesus. Pure and holy affection is not a feeling,
but a principle. Those who are actuated by true love are neither
unreasonable nor blind.”
-The Ministry of Healing, 358, 359
“True love is a high and holy principle, altogether different in
character from that love which is awakened by impulse, and which
suddenly dies when severely tested.”
-Patriarchs and Prophets, 176.
We, mostly teenagers, are engaged into relationships with the other sex in a haste. A sudden emotional burst for a moment doesn’t guarantee a person if he/she is really in a feeling called love.
” Great care should be taken by Christian youth in the formation of friendships and in the choice of companions. Take heed, lest what you now think to be pure gold turns out to be base metal. Worldly associations tend to place obstructions in the way of your service to God, and many souls are ruined by unhappy unions, either business or matrimonial, with those who can never elevate or ennoble.”
-Fundamentals of Christian Education, 500.
“Weigh every sentiment, and watch every development of character
in the one with whom you think to link your life destiny. The step you
are about to take is one of the most important in your life, and should
not be taken hastily. While you may love, do not love blindly.
Examine carefully to see if your married life would be happy or
inharmonious and wretched. Let the questions be raised, Will this
union help me heavenward? Will it increase my love for God? And
will it enlarge my sphere of usefulness in this life? If these reﬂections
present no drawback, then in the fear of God move forward.”
-Fundamentals of Christian Education, 104.
“You may say, “But I have given my promise, and shall I now retract
it?” I answer, If you have made a promise contrary to the Scriptures,
by all means retract it without delay, and in humility before God repent
of the infatuation that led you to make so rash a pledge. Far better
take back such a promise, in the fear of God, than keep it, and thereby
dishonor your Maker.”
-Testimonies for the Church 5:365
All of these counsels are not only limited for teenagers that has views of their companion as one which is not connected to their future married life. In short, UYAB2x LANG GUD.
Married life has to be prepared thoroughly and must be considered as one of the major decision that a person to make in his/her life.
“If those who are contemplating
marriage would not have miserable, unhappy reﬂections after
marriage, they must make it a subject of serious, earnest reﬂection
now. This step taken unwisely is one of the most effective means of
ruining the usefulness of young men and women. Life becomes a
burden, a curse. No one can so effectually ruin a woman’s happiness
and usefulness, and make life a heart sickening burden, as her own
husband; and no one can do one hundredth part as much to chill the
hopes and aspirations of a man, to paralyze his energies and ruin his
inﬂuence and prospects, as his own wife. It is from the marriage hour
that many men and women date their success or failure in this life, and
their hopes of the future life.”
-The Review and Herald, February 2, 1886.
lovesick sentimentalism, should be guarded against as would be the
leprosy. Very many of the young men and women in this age of the
world are lacking in virtue; therefore great caution is needed…. Those
who have preserved a virtuous character, although they may lack in
other desirable qualities, may be of real moral worth.
-Testimonies for the Church 2:123.
There are persons who have for some time made a profession of
religion who are, to all intents and purposes, without God and without
a sensitive conscience. They are vain and triﬂing; their conversation is
of a low order. Courtship and marriage occupy the mind, to the exclusion of higher
and nobler thoughts.
-Testimonies for the Church 4:589.
The young are bewitched with the mania for courtship and
marriage. Lovesick sentimentalism prevails. Great vigilance and tact
are needed to guard the youth from these wrong inﬂuences.”
-Testimonies for the Church 5:60.
“Gird up the loins of your mind, says the
apostle; then control your thoughts, not allowing them to have full
scope. The thoughts may be guarded and controlled by your own
determined efforts. Think right thoughts, and you will perform right
actions. You have, then, to guard the affections, not letting them go
out and fasten upon improper objects. Jesus has purchased you with
His own life; you belong to Him; therefore He is to be consulted in all
things, as to how the powers of your mind and the affections of your
heart shall be employed.”
-The Youth´s Instructor, April 21, 1886.
“The ideas of
courtship have their foundation in erroneous ideas concerning
marriage. They follow impulse and blind passion. The courtship is
carried on in a spirit of ﬂirtation. The parties frequently violate the
rules of modesty and reserve and are guilty of indiscretion, if they do
not break the law of God. The high, noble, lofty design of God in the
institution of marriage is not discerned; therefore the purest affections
of the heart, the noblest traits of character are not developed.
Not one word should be spoken, not one action performed, that you
would not be willing the holy angels should look upon and register in
the books above. You should have an eye single to the glory of God.
The heart should have only pure, sanctiﬁed affection, worthy of the
followers of Jesus Christ, exalted in its nature, and more heavenly
than earthly. Anything different from this is debasing, degrading in
courtship; and marriage cannot be holy and honorable in the sight of a
pure and holy God, unless it is after the exalted Scriptural principle.”
-Manuscript 4a, 1885
The youth trust altogether too much to impulse.
Keeping Late Hours
“The habit of sitting up late at night is
customary; but it is not pleasing to God, even if you are both
Christians. These untimely hours injure health, unﬁt the mind for the
next day’s duties, and have an appearance of evil. My brother, I hope
you will have self-respect enough to shun this form of courtship. If you
have an eye single to the glory of God, you will move with deliberate
caution. You will not suffer lovesick sentimentalism to so blind your
vision that you cannot discern the high claims that God has upon you
as a Christian.”
-Testimonies for the Church 3:44, 45
Triﬂing With Hearts
“To triﬂe with hearts is a crime of no small
magnitude in the sight of a holy God. And yet some will show
preference for young ladies and call out their affections, and then go
their way and forget all about the words they have spoken and their
effect. A new face attracts them, and they repeat the same words,
devote to another the same attentions.
This disposition will reveal itself in the married life. The marriage
relation does not always make the ﬁckle mind ﬁrm, the wavering
steadfast and true to principle. They tire of constancy, and unholy
thoughts will manifest themselves in unholy actions. How essential it
is, then, that the youth so gird up the loins of their mind and guard their
conduct that Satan cannot beguile them from the path of uprightness.”
-The Review and Herald, November 4, 1884.
“A young man who enjoys the
society and wins the friendship of a young lady unbeknown to her
parents does not act a noble Christian part toward her or toward her
-Fundamentals of Christian Education, 101.
“When one commandment of
the Decalogue is broken, the downward steps are almost certain.
When once the barriers of female modesty are removed, the basest
licentiousness does not appear exceeding sinful. Alas, what terrible
results of woman’s inﬂuence for evil may be witnessed in
58the world today! Through the allurements of “strange women,”
thousands are incarcerated in prison cells, many take their own lives,
and many cut short the lives of others. How true the words of
Inspiration, “Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.””
-The Signs of the Times, July 1, 1903.
“There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.”
Thus, we must consider every detail of counsel that we are about to receive. Lear and grow.
With these counsels, I will never be lost. Again.
“Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;” “Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.”
God Bless! 🙂 weeeeee.